Our deepest needs are human needs; love, warmth, acceptance, support. “The spontaneous movement in all of us is toward connection, health and aliveness. No matter how withdrawn and isolated we have become, or how serious the trauma we have experienced, on the deepest level, just as a plant spontaneously moves toward sunlight, there is in each of us an impulse toward connection and healing.”
– Heller La Pierre-
If our emotional and psychological needs were not adequately met in childhood, they continue to exist today in their original state. In order to cope and “get on with life,” we all have automatic survival mechanisms we rely on to protect and shield us.
This often means the wounded child parts have to go into hiding. Some parts get pushed very far away out of consciousness, especially if there wasn’t anyone there to offer comfort or support. Inner Child work is about reclamation, a process of reconnecting and integrating those “lost parts” over time, it doesn’t happen all at once. Keeping the focus on staying present “in the here and now” is important to prevent feeling overwhelmed and getting lost in the past.
Phyllis Hunt M.I.A.C.P. Counsellor/Psychotherapist.
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